This next principle I really like is Putting the Relationship First. One example that I really enjoyed from the book Unconditional Parenting was from one of Alfie Kohn's friends Danny. He said "right isn’t necessarily what matters.” In fact, it matters very little if your children stiffen when you walk into the room."
I definitely agree with this statement. When I think about my relationship with my parents I always feel very relaxed, but when I'm around someone that is more controlling then my parents ever were I'm glad I have the relationship that I can trust them and am not worried about what I tell them. This is a big emphasis that Kohn makes.
Another quote I liked from Kohn was : before we resort to controlling interventions, before we make a child unhappy, and certainly before we do anything that could be construed as placing conditions on our love, we should make absolutely sure it’s worth the possible strain on the relationship.
Relating this principle back to the scriptures was quite easy I automatically thought about the story of Adam and Eve found in Moses 4, even after they did something wrong and knowing what they had done, Heavenly Father still loving let them tell him what happened.
(1)Kohn, Alfie (2005-03-22). Unconditional Parenting (p. 123). Simon & Schuster, Inc.. Kindle Edition.
(2)Kohn, Alfie (2005-03-22). Unconditional Parenting (p. 123). Simon & Schuster, Inc.. Kindle Edition.
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