Lately I have found myself worrying about a number of things. Must say though before I start that things have also been going great in other things.
Most of these worries are about Kenneth. Tim and I share these feelings. I'm hoping to get some comfort today at his appointment.
I worry about him not walking yet, he's still so afraid to do it, and although he's finally has walked with his walker he only ever does it now if we force it upon him. He still prefers his goofy army crawling over regular crawling although has done the normal crawling for longer instances. I just hope he'll start walking soon, especially because I'm sick of the looks I get when I say how old he is and isn't walking. I think part of this worry came from thinking that he would walk while he was 14 months, now that he's 15 months and not walking, I was a little down about it. Tim and I both started walking when we were 14 months so that's why we both were hoping he would be this last month.
Next is his talking, he's said words here and there but never on a regular basis that I feel comfortable saying he knows that word. He has said Hi, mom (but it usually whining), dada, thank you, and I love you (once). Mostly he just babbles and babbles, I so want him to actually say something on a regular basis and start speaking sentences I know he's a smart kid, his actions about certain things show that but I see all my friends with their kids progressing and my kid isn't. This usually leads to me questioning what I/we were thinking having a baby while I was in school and not able to spend as much time teaching him. But also has given me that extra drive to be done in a year from now, so that I can spend more time with him.
I know part of these feelings come from being in a new ward with a whole set of new people, since no one knew he crawls the way he does they all laugh at it, which now hurts my feelings, I know it shouldn't since everyone who has ever seen his crawl laughs at it, but when a huge group is laughing at your baby it hurts. All of his friends are walking now that were born around the same time as him, he has to be the last to do anything I guess.
Another worry I have that's more related to me is whether we'll be able to ever have a baby again. I know we can get pregnant, but keeping it is the issue. I mentioned in another post about having gone to the doctor my mom works with. I still haven't heard the results from the tests I had to do and would like to know good or bad so that I know what to expect next and better know when we can try again, for now we have to hold off until we get some answers to help figure out the reasoning behind the miscarriages.
The other worry I have, but also not is Tim going back to school. I worry that he's not going to do good and we'll be stuck finding something for him to do somewhere else. He's determined to do good and succeed so I just am hoping and praying that will be the case.
Okay done being a downer. Next post should be happy.
6 comments:
Have you thought about taking Kenneth to an Occupational therapist? They would be able to assist him with both speech and crawling/walking. Might be something to start looking into. It is very hard when your child isn't at the same developmental stage as the other kids around him. I know exactly how that feels. Once I knew what was holding Kaidyn back it helped me to understand how I needed to work on his specific needs to resolve the developmental issues he has struggled with. I would suggest getting Kenneth into an Occ Therapist asap. It is easier for them to overcome delays when they are younger. It is a very emotional thing knowing that your child is different and for me it was hard to admit it at first. I thought my baby was perfect and his quirks made him special. It took me a while to overcome these emotions and realize that his quirks were going to turn into huge trials for him later on in life if we didn't get early intervention. Seeing a therapist made a lot of my worry go away knowing that there are tools to help.
I totally agree. I would try the OC therapist as well, and at least see what they and how you feel afterwards. When i couldnt get Parker to take a bottle, the doctor wanted some people to come into the house and help me....afterwards i thought i CAN do this...and i did. many many prayers. I would at least meet once, and see how you feel afterwards. Your a mom, you will know what your gut tells you. As for people laughing at him...all hell would break loose...good thing im not there. But they would be the best option for you at this time to calm your worries, and teach you things that maybe kenneth may need help with for right now. i felt the SAME way (and still do) about brooklynn and her talking.
Hi Rachel! This is Melissa, one of your many Kimball cousins. All of us mother's worry about our kids, I think it just comes with motherhood! All of my kids have been late walkers. My first was 16 months, my second was almost 18 months, and my third is 16 months right now and not walking yet. And he likes to do a little army crawl sometimes. They all figured it out eventually, just on their own time table. As far as talking, it sounds like Kenneth is pretty normal for his age. Your concerns are pretty valid though, so you can bring them up with your pediatrician and see where to go from there...he might just start picking things up and do just fine. And if not, you are aware of his needs and can help him get where he needs to be. Hang in there! I am sure you are doing a great job as a wife and mother. :)
So i just thought of one other thing for talking....I was SO BAD at just giving B her paci whenever she was fussy or wanted it....and no im paying for it. We know have it that she cant have it unless its naptime or bedtime and its the same with Parker....but i realized once i took that dang thing out throughout the day she started to talk A LOT more. Its not totally clear because when she first started talking she always had a paci in her mouth....MY FAULT. Now i know....so i dont know if he gets it throughout the day, but i would definitely limit it if he does :)
I would definitely talk to your pediatrician. With that said.... Just remember every kid is different. Jackson hardly did a real crawl before he walked. And now he's 18 months and still hardly talking. Yes, he says some words. But mostly he doesn't talk. I will be talking to his dr just to be sure. But just remember not to compare him to others. Every kid is different. Just my two cents :)
Being a mom is hard especially when you have friends with kids the same age because kids and babies will do things on their own time. My sisters little girl is two weeks older and already says so many words and phrases but I just have to remember our circumstances are all different (she has two older boys who are constantly playing with her). He's not that old and may just not be ready yet but that doesn't mean he's developmentally delayed. All kids are different and worrying is just natural. Let us know what your doctor says, I've been thinking about you all day!
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