The Good enough approach??? What's that you may be asking. I had first heard a little about this last Winter semester. In Successful Marriages and Families McCarthy and Mertz are quoted and explain that married couples aren't always on the same level when it comes to desire, arousal, or satisfaction.
McCarthy states that having this three things equal are unrealistic and will interfere with positive marital sexuality. Isn't this the truth. I may not have been married long but I do know that there are times that either one may not be ready when the other is. I have heard this from a lot of friends and family members.
This approach states that we should look towards all interactions together to be enjoyable and not always expect it to reach and be 100%. It should be looked at as a relaxation effort on both parties and abandon always being prefect. Being able to realize that it won't always be amazing for both parties allow you to enjoy just being together and create a better inmate relationship together.
In my class last semester we talked about how sometimes you have to take the Nike motto into terms for your life and just do it. Even if you're not always in the mood, be willing to be there for your spouse will allow you to grow even closer. Spouses don't like being turned down and as such can create hurt feelings as discussed in the previous post on Marital Intimacy.
As I have learned more about this approach I find that I am willing to start practicing this approach and recommend it to those I can disclose this information too to help those that may be needing the help of this approach.
Successful Marriages and Families Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives Alan J Hawkins et al Chapter 4 pg 53
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