Marital Sexuality

Why talk about marital Sexuality and Fertility? I think it's so important to understand why it's something we need in marriage and in fact are told to do, not only to procreate but to grow closer together as a husband and wife.

On Page page 50 of the Successful Marriages and Families book, it describes the need for Godly Sex. Gardner is quoted stating that "Godly Sex is so much more... than merely a physical act; it has a spiritual component.. [A] deeper connection [within sexual relations] goes far beyond simply understanding how to overcome sexual dysfunction... It goes way beyond technique and physique. This deeper dimension is experienced when we move past pleasure as a goal and instead seek intimate connection- not just with our bodies but also with our souls. " Engaging in this type of intimacy requires more then the physical act as stated. It requires us to to become one emotionally and spiritually. Having those three things in conjunction makes for a better and happier marriage.

Positive Marital Sexuality found by McCarthy and McCarthy:
1. Sexual interaction is a healthy component of marriage that need not be a source of negative feelings or guilt.
2. Married persons deserve to feel good about their bodies and to view sexual expression as a normal, healthy part of their marriage.
3. A primary component of Marital sexuality is giving and receiving pleasure-oriented touching in the context of an intimate, committed, and divinely supported relationship. As such, it requires relaxation and focus on the other person as well as on one's own pleasure.
4. Sexuality should be expressed in a way that enhances your intimate, marital relationship and bonds you together.
5. Couples should strive to create a "we" relationship, where both partners' sharing and pleasure is important as opposed to one person individually focused on what she or he will get out of the experience.

These beliefs help show and support even more the aspect of Godly love and how we can use it in our marriages to create a better relationship.



Gardner's Book Sacred sex; A spiritual celebration of oneness in Marriage 2002
Successful Marriages and Families Proclamation Principles and Research PerspectivesAlan J Hawkins et al Chapter 4 pg 50 and 52