Positive emotions are important for a healthy marriage. Negative ones if allowed to deepen can overtake a marriage. Gottom in his book again talks about how most happy marriages have an interaction of 5 positive to 1 negative.
In order to enhance your positive interaction in marriage it is best to focus on the opsitive qualities of your spouse. Make and share lists of things you admire and appreciate about each other. This can have personal traits, talents, something you especially like about him, a feature of your relationship that you like, or something positive your spouse has done. After having done this go through and write the traits on note cards and place them were you can see them regularly to help remind you of things you like about your spouse and decrease the negative aspects.
Successful Marriages and Families Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives Alan J Hawkins et al Chapter 3 pg 31-32
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