In marriage me need Love and Friendship, the type of love that we really need is Christlike love. We are taught in D&C 42:22 that we "shalt love thy wife with all they heart". Can mean the same for woman as well to love their husband's. The only person that we should love more than our spouse and are commanded to do is to love God.
Marriage that has true love are based on deep friendship. That is a mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other's company. John Gottman stated this.
How do we nurture love and friendship?
Get in sync with your partner's love preferences. Gottman in his book Seven principles for Successful Marriage discusses the importance of having a love map. This is where we discuss together as a couple what is going on within each others life and what concerns we have.
Talk as friends
Taking the time to simple talk as friends do and forget about the job, the kids, and any other problems we have. Letting each other know how we feel about each other.
Respond to bids for connection/attention: these are simple things that we do with out always thinking about them. Letting each other know that we're wanting to feel connected to one other. It can be as simple as while reading a book saying that's interesting. When our spouse responds it lets them know we care about them.
Successful Marriages and Families Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives Alan J Hawkins et al Chapter 3 pg 30-31
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